Let go of psychological debts at work to regain vitality

Letting go of psychological debts is like cleaning out your emotional closet. Sometimes you find old grudges in there that look like old-fashioned sweaters. So why not donate them to the "Forget It" association and make room for new, more constructive emotions? 😄

Letting go of psychological debts involves a process of emotional and mental release from grudges, resentments or frustrations you may feel towards someone or their company. Here are a few steps to detail this process:

1. Acknowledge your emotions: Identify the negative emotions you feel towards the person in question. This could include anger, sadness, disappointment, etc.

2. Understand the reasons: Try to understand why you feel the way you do. What actions or events led to this psychological debt? What other debts might they be attached to? 

3. Become aware of the effects: Think about how these negative emotions affect you personally. How do they influence your thoughts, actions and general well-being?

4. Accept your emotions: It's important to accept your emotions rather than repress them. Allow yourself to feel what you feel without judgment.

5. Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean you approve of the person's actions, but rather it's a way of freeing yourself from the emotional burden. Try to see the situation objectively and consider that the person is human and prone to error.

6. Step back: Step back from the situation and consider whether the negative emotions are worth holding on to. Is it worth it for your own mental health?

7. Choose communication (if necessary): If the situation allows, consider talking to the person in question. An open conversation can help clarify misunderstandings and reduce tension.

8. Focus on the present: Try to concentrate on the present moment rather than constantly dwelling on the past. Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded in the here and now.

9. Take care of yourself: During this process, make sure you take care of your emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, and don't hesitate to seek support from loved ones or a professional if necessary.

10. Give the process time: Letting go of psychological debts can take time. Be patient with yourself and remember that it's a gradual, step-by-step process.

Remember that every situation is unique, and it can be helpful to consult a mental health professional or coach for personalized support during this process.

Illustration: 

Toulouse-based Élodie had long been recognized for her dedication to her work, but the accumulated frustrations of an underperforming team and pent-up emotions were threatening to overwhelm her. One day, while wandering the gardens of the Château de la Reynerie during a hectic break, she realized that the time had come to face her inner demons.

Her first step led to a tense encounter with her manager, who had noticed changes in her behavior. Élodie took the risk of sharing her emotions and concerns, revealing a vulnerability she had long hidden.

Yet, just a few weeks later, she learned that the company was being restructured, putting many jobs at risk, including her own. This shocking news plunged Élodie into an even deeper inner struggle. She realized that if she didn't let go of her psychological debts, the pressure could break her.

In search of answers, Élodie sought the help of a therapist specializing in stress management. During the sessions, she began to deconstruct negative thought patterns and find ways to manage the anxiety that accompanied the threat of losing her job.

The imminent threat of job loss prompted her to explore more intense healing techniques. She enrolled in a personal development workshop focusing on self-confidence and emotional management. This demanding inner journey brought her face to face with her deepest fears.

As time went by, Élodie began to feel a change. The psychological debts that haunted her began to lose their power. She felt stronger, more resilient and better able to face challenges, whether at work or in her personal life.

When the dreaded restructuring materialized, Élodie was hit hard, but she was ready to face the future with a new perspective. Although her journey had been littered with obstacles, the imminent threat of job loss had been the catalyst that forced her to let go of her psychological debts. Through trials and learning, Élodie had found a form of liberation she never thought possible.

Matthieu Poirot (www.midori-consulting.com)

Psychologist and Phd in Management

Expert in Organizational Psychology

Latest book: "Développez votre leadership positif" (Vuibert)